Lack of Originality: As a blogger, I find it is very hard to distinguish myself and style from others at times. If you truly do not have a unique voice or look, it is going to be a struggle. Every blogger seems to have a niche that they believe to be original. You have the high-rollers (name brand lovers), the thrifters, the budget-girls, the trend spotters...and I could go on and on with the list. Basically, we all fit into some type of category, so everyone is doing the same thing with their own unique voice. What I have come to realize is that even though I am not doing anything original most of the time, people will like you for their own personal reasons. Essentially, you may never know the true reason that someone likes your blog, it could be a number of things (personality, beauty, body type, style, etc). This is what motivates me, I am not for everybody and that is okay.
Hierachy: There is a hierarchy, whether you want to believe it or not. I did a video on the hierarchy of hair texture in the natural hair community on my YouTube channel, and blogging is no different. If you are trying to make a name for yourself and create useful content, you have a long road ahead of you. In every aspect of life you always have your veterans that rule the game (Stans...this would be like the Beyonce's of the blogging world). Keep in mind that this is a race to the top, so I have observed that a lot of bloggers stick with their cliques, and will let you know in some form.... you can't sit with us. I tend to think differently about new fish. I am very confident in my abilities, and I have been blogging since 2010, so I love the new girls. This community needs new energy, and I always try to embrace up and coming bloggers. It is important to spread the love and give back to the community that gives so much to you. You have to endure through the hardwork and ups and downs to keep your passion alive. I believe everyone has a time and season for success because God has ordained it to be that way.
Free stuff: I think a lot people have a misconception about free items. I am not swimming with the Big Fish yet, but I do understand a few things. While I think it is amazing that businesses understand the influence of bloggers, there is a bigger picture. Brands don't send free clothing or pay for sponsored posts because you are so great. They do it because they expect you to use your influence to bring them attention or sell products. For many years I received nothing and no one was thinking about me or my blog...lol My blog is still fairly small, but my audience and interest have grown. I am offered items, but I am very selective about what I take. Whenever you receive a product from a company they are going to expect you to showcase it, and do you know what that means? Well, let me tell you...work, work, and more work. I cannot tell you how many hours I spend (in addition to my job) writing, researching, taking pictures, filming, and reflecting on my blog. Put simply, a blog is nothing but work, so in my opinion nothing I get is ever free and that is okay. I believe in hard work.
Competition: Everyone is always saying that they are not competing, but I don't know how true that is. Who invests time, sacrifices quality moments with family, and works endlessly on a blog that they do not want to be successful! I wouldn't say that I believe that I am competing with any other blogger, it's more measuring my success against others. I'm always struggling to be better and to expand myself. I don't think that I am ever truly happy about the growth of my blog because I am always thinking about how I could be better. This is where competition comes in....it makes you hungry and keeps pushing you to excel. You may not be a blogger, but you want a promotion on your job right? We are all competing. It is just important to make sure that you have a clear sense of who you are, and the main focus should be yourself and not someone else.
One thing that I do know for sure is that none of these irritants will ever take me away from my blog. The day that I stop enjoying it, is the day that I will stop! What are your thoughts about the negative aspects of blogging?
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